| Bad news: You'll
see a lot of the back of that baby's head. Breastfed newborns
nurse really often. As one experienced mother said, they
seem to nurse every hour on the hour... for an hour.
Good news: Since
the new mother will spend so much time nursing at first,
your cooking and cleaning will be a true gift of love
- a needed gift that she will always remember. And
when you do get to hold the baby, you'll smell
only clean baby smell, even when there's a messy diaper. Breastfed
babies smell good.
Bad news: If
your own children weren't breastfed, you may find yourself
wondering how to advise the mother in this strange
new parenting style. You may see her doing things
that you were told were unwise, or even unsafe, like
nursing the baby without clock-watching, or sleeping
with the baby. Things that we now know are good for
babies. We've learned a lot in the years since
your children were born.
Good news: She
may be eager to share her growing experience with you. Ask
to look at her books, or go with her to a La Leche
League meeting. Some of the things you discover
may feel surprisingly right to you. One grandmother
said, "I always felt there was a piece missing with
my babies. I think this was it." | Bad
news: You may not have a chance to offer a bottle
or cereal. Nursing mothers usually wait at least a month
to offer a bottle, or may never use one, and wait for solids
until about 6 months, when the baby can sit and feed himself.
Good news: This
little one will probably sleep less than yours did, and will
rarely be sick. An alert, healthy baby is more fun for
everyone, and has more time and enthusiasm for play.
Bad news: Well,
there really isn't any more bad news.
Good news: This
will be a baby to brag about. Breastfed babies tend to
be smart, walk early, stay healthy, feel solid, and look rosy. And
even if your grandchild seems clingy at first, in time that clinginess
will blossom into a secure sense of independence. This
will be a child who loves going to Grandma's house! But
right now, he doesn't need your help and support. His mother
does. By encouraging her to enjoy her new role and helping
her find the information and support she needs to make breastfeeding
go smoothly, you're making a golden investment in your grandchild's
future.
Now what could be better news than that?
©2001 Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC
136 Ellis
Hollow Creek Road Ithaca, NY 14850
Used with permission
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